Oct 23 2008

Why do we judge others?

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Long post. If you feel sleepy, go to bed. -__-

Some people are so judgemental. They judge everything. They make early conclusions. They judge people from a tiny piece of information about that particular person. I mean, come on, that’s just a tiny piece of ‘information’. It might not even true. and, perhaps, the person who wrote that tiny piece of information is not even serious about it.

As a human, we judge other people. We categorize other people.
A punk
A skinhead
A gothic
A I-want-to-suicide-by-swallowing-pills-and-get-found-emo
An indie
Mr. Know-it-all
An airhead
An attention addict
A loner
A super geek who has no life
A person with a very low self-esteem who always mess up
A nerd.
An average person

Why can’t we just be… who we are? I am Aisyah. And I am me. I’m not any of the categories and I’m not an average person either. I’m not afraid to admit that I am myself.

Sure, as a human, I too can’t get away from judging people. But I try not to judge people. Before I say the conclusion, I’d say something like, “based on what he/she writes here, she is ….[fill in the blank]. but of course, it’s just an early assumption and I might be totally wrong”. Then again, who am I to judge other people. Actually, why would I want to judge others, in the first place?

What difference would it make if you judge someone? Would the person you are judging change? Do you actually think that you can change something by judging?

Of course NOT!

So, what’s the point of judging people?

I think, people who judge others want to feel good about themselves by putting others down. They want to feel like they are good and all that, and would be able to say, “thank god I’m not like her”.

Am I right?

That’s just sick.

I’m very much aware that people are constantly judging me from what I post on my blog. I wonder, could it be that some people are jealous because I’m such a happy person? Some people don’t even like the fact that I’m writing about my personal life here. (WTH?) It’s MY damn blog. I can write whatever I want. Honestly, I don’t take my blog too seriously. So as my videos. And yet, there are people who take what I’m posting on this blog too seriously. So what if I mention about the word sex, fuck, shit, ass boobs, penis?

Grow up. Gosh.

If you feel offended, I’m sorry that you are so sensitive. I’m not here to cater all your needs. I’m here to blog, and some people find it interesting. And I’m glad for that. Those people who think that I’m just a bimbo who doesn’t know anything beside eating chocolates and shopping, can always click the ‘X’ button at the corner up there and never come back.

Simple.

I know I’ve been posting some bimbo posts lately. Actually, other than the fact that I’ve been to busy to post new entries, (except for bimbo posts, cause more pictures need less words), I realized that deep inside somewhere at the bottom of my heart, I wanted to show (to certain people) that I’m living a great life. That I’m happy. That, I can be happy AND independent.
*bimbo posts: posts containing pictures of the blogger doing activities such as hanging out with friends, partying, partying, and partying. In other words, pictures with loads of camwhore pictures. =p

No further elaboration on that. I don’t need to explain anything.

Do you remember this post?

If you read that post, I said that I show a little of myself here.

If I show everything about myself here, would it be fun to get to know me anymore? There’s no surprises. Wouldn’t that be so boring?

You know, you can’t even know who someone really is, whether it’s your boyfriend, or your bestest friend forever UNTIL you live under one roof with that person for atleast 3 days. Then only you will get to notice the person’s habits. Of course, that person can fake. Try 3 months. No one can keep up an act more than 3 months and then, they’ll start to show their true colours.

Fascinating huh?

Anyways, my point is, you can’t judge someone based on a tiny piece of information on the internet. You can’t judge me based on what I write here. My blog doesn’t define who I am. It’s what I do. You can see how utterly pointless some of the posts are (actually, it’s the most, lol).  It’s purely just for fun. And I appreciate your attention. I never imagined my blog to be quite popular among bloggers. Malaysian bloggers, especially.

Internet is, after all, internet. Life is life. I’m not a geek who says that blog is my life and all that shit. Again, it’s just something that I do when I’m bored. When I need to rant, ramble, or say anything that I want.

If I feel like writing, I type. If I feel like posting pictures, I post. If I feel like doodling, I doodle. If I feel like going naked, I strip down.

I show a little of myself here, only what I want people to see.

Whatever it is, if you can’t resist from judging me, judge. Just because you’ve read all my posts, that doesn’t mean you know everything about me. If you want to think that way, be my guest. At the end of the day, I still win because I know who I am. You don’t know the real me. Therefore, your judgement is invalid. Hence, I won’t let you get to me.

Finally, I want to thank to all my supporters who always read my blog, whether it’s the regular commentators or the silent readers, I really appreciate you coming to my blog. Without my readers, my blog would be… well… unread.  =p

Thank you. *bows*

Bai.

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This entry was posted by Aisyah on Thursday, October 23rd, 2008 at 11:14 pm and is filed under Thoughts & Musings

63 Responses to “Why do we judge others?”

  1. Fishballisme October 24th, 2008 at 12:14 am

    Sy tetap suka ‘bimbo posts’! Jangan risau, saya akan berusaha tidak menilai kamu dari apa yang saya baca di blog kamu ini.

    Fishballisme’s last blog post..The way I am

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  2. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 1:30 am

    terima kaseh. meh cium sikit. haha

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  3. Fishballisme October 24th, 2008 at 1:45 am

    Haha. *keluar peloh*

    Tapi apa yang MK cakap memang betul (maksud saya blog kamu yang fun dan jugak kamu sangat pandai).

    Sorang dari kawan saya pun dah mula baca blog kamu. Dia cakap kamu ni ‘giler’(merujuk kepada video hari raya). :))
    Fishballisme’s last blog post..The way I am

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  4. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 7:44 am

    saya ‘giler’? yeaaah. I get that a lot. Esp from my friends.

  5. Uzair October 24th, 2008 at 10:38 am

    Dia je ke?mana aci..

    Uzair’s last blog post..Mari Bersosial Bersama Plurk

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  6. abdusfauzi October 24th, 2008 at 12:29 am

    i’m here to read your post. :p

    why? hmm.. i just like it. it add flavor into my internet life. a cyber life, which is not even close to my real life. hehe.

    don’t worry aisyah, i’ll keep reading your post. i support you! yea~ :cheer:
    abdusfauzi’s last blog post..Encik, I LOVE YOU ?

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  7. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 8:40 am

    Thank you, I appreciate that. :D :love:

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  8. MK October 24th, 2008 at 1:13 am

    I’m a nerd. Hey that’s compliment.

    Truth is, i don’t really like you. But I kept coming back to read, this blog is fun.

    And I think you’re cleverer than what you show us here. Bah.

    MK’s last blog post..Folder Guide: Akses Folder Dengan Mudah

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  9. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 1:36 am

    you don’t like me but you like my blog? -_-
    fineee.
    and I never said being a nerd is an insult. it depends on how you see it. Bill Gates is a nerd but he’s making millions. *kening* :D
    but when it comes to fashion sense, yeah. =\

    LOL. I don’t think I need to prove anything here, anyway. :)

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  10. MK October 24th, 2008 at 2:02 am

    not that i don’t like you. just, not really.

    and bill gates does have some fashion sense, he’s featured in TEEN magazine: http://is.gd/4E2x :p
    MK’s last blog post..Folder Guide: Akses Folder Dengan Mudah

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  11. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 8:38 am

    LOL. tahniah Bill Gates. haha

  12. NoktahHitam October 24th, 2008 at 4:50 am

    Aisyah,

    You may have took this a bit too further. Anyway, YOU HAVE DEPTH! That’s all I have to say.

    Irregardless of your bimbo post, it’s still fun read.

    Honestly, I like you writings more than pictures-pictures-pictures burn my graphic card post.

    NoktahHitam’s last blog post..The Disclaimer

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  13. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 7:59 am

    so basically, anything I post here is fun to read la? Lol.

    oh yeah, I’ve added the poll. =)

  14. MaJa October 24th, 2008 at 4:21 am

    As long as youre not as cocky as stevenlim.net , I’m reading ur blog.

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  15. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 8:01 am

    i checked stevenlim.net.

    8-)

    okay. I’ll try not to be as cocky as him.

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  16. NoktahHitam October 24th, 2008 at 2:55 pm

    stevenlim is downright funny! Hahahah

    NoktahHitam’s last blog post..The Disclaimer

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  17. rham October 24th, 2008 at 4:42 am

    rasenye bimbo post lagi best kot dari bace panjang2 camni :hehe:

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  18. NoktahHitam October 24th, 2008 at 4:51 am

    Best bace tulesan lagi! Aisyah, buat poll! Hehehe

    NoktahHitam’s last blog post..The Disclaimer

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  19. NoktahHitam October 24th, 2008 at 5:06 am

    Oh yeah Aisyah, looks like you will have to learn the secret password for the ads :cheer:
    NoktahHitam’s last blog post..The Disclaimer

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  20. d2z October 24th, 2008 at 7:15 am

    where is the X button..sigh..i have to stay here forever..

    d2z’s last blog post..When I’m Gone

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  21. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 8:38 am

    habis laaa. matila~ haha

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  22. d2z October 24th, 2008 at 8:42 am

    x matilah..suka ja dok sini..lol..eh2.. :blush:
    d2z’s last blog post..When I’m Gone

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  23. Zul October 24th, 2008 at 8:13 am

    Yup.. i pun suke bimbo’s post.. perkataan baru nih.. sy still respect penulisan member2 blog sy.. and i think, ur blog is very good.. i like that video, really..

    Zul’s last blog post..Aku mau bagitau sesuatu..

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  24. Simply Precious October 24th, 2008 at 8:39 am

    Yep, you’re right about not judging people based on their blogs. I’m being judged based on what I SAY about certain things, and they do NOT know how I TRULY feel about certain things, yet, they create all this drama/mess. But whatever. LOL. LOL, and that person isn’t an online person either. But yeah, you’re right, it’s your blog, so you can say what you want to say, do what you want to do. And yeah, my blog’s just my journal, and no word can DESCRIBE how I feel about my life offline, and what I do offline! No matter how good I make it sound, I’m SURE that you don’t get that full effect. LOL, so yeah, just do what you want, Aisyah, we love reading your blogs regardless.

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  25. edot October 24th, 2008 at 8:41 am

    i like your posts regardless of what they were all about. :straight:
    i like the way you put your words into sentences :p
    i wish my English could be as good as yours. :shift:
    edot’s last blog post..[W] Men are more secretive?

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  26. Aisyah October 24th, 2008 at 3:32 pm

    thank you. I’m so touched. :joytears:

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  27. KNizam October 24th, 2008 at 10:07 am

    haha persetankan mereka semua
    just write what u like.
    haha

    KNizam’s last blog post..“Mengimbau Nostalgia 80an” di HotFM AM Krew Faizal & Fara !

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  28. ika October 24th, 2008 at 12:45 pm

    internet is just more than friendster,myspace,facebook bla3…

    my friends always ask me “nape yang ko minat sangat baca blog org hah?”
    i just reply, “we surf the internet,not just for those crap SC* that we will get bored after some time,but with blog we can learn something more. something about life. something that we can’t learn in class..”

    its ur blog aisyah..its ur home. just do whatever u want..ignore those ppl..

    don’t be like me..become a fool becoz of that only one person huhu (u know who) :p

    write anything u want to write.. :)

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  29. xmindfreakx October 24th, 2008 at 1:18 pm

    teruskan sahaja yang ada sekarang..i lyk to read ur blog..dun worry.ur blog is fun…kadang2 kurangkan stress otak bila asyik baca blog yang serious..

    xmindfreakx’s last blog post..Malaysia semakin Intelektual!!

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  30. abdusfauzi October 24th, 2008 at 2:07 pm

    yeah! more post aisyah! more! more!
    especially, when the post got hot ChiCks and Azima yg Cute! hehe..

    p.s: ads seCret.

    abdusfauzi’s last blog post..Encik, I LOVE YOU ?

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  31. Liberticamodifica October 24th, 2008 at 3:10 pm

    Hye hye.hye aisyah! Dunt get offended by those pathetics’ comments. ur blog is damn too interestin to be condemned. just wish da losers a fuckin hell,who nids those emos while u stil hv thousands of supporters wif u aite? *i think u shud create ur own fan club la aisyah.lol*

    Cheers!

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  32. Deborah October 24th, 2008 at 4:17 pm

    ala relax lah aisyah :) pedulikan mereke2.

    hahaha,youre rite. its YOUR damn blog. anyways,i love your bimbo post.

    allow me to borrow the ‘bimbo’ word. hahaha. :happy:
    Deborah’s last blog post..Highlights

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  33. Aisyah October 25th, 2008 at 10:48 pm

    hoho. thanks.
    borrow the word? no fucking way, bebeh!
    LOL, just kidding. it’s in dictionary. -_-

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  34. Manusia biasa October 26th, 2008 at 12:51 pm

    pedulikan mereka2?? meaning when they r trying to help her,contohnye nk swoh die ubah jadi budak baik just leave it la ek.pedulikan mereka2 tu la ek. =.=”

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  35. Aisyah October 26th, 2008 at 2:01 pm

    bro, hidup mesti ambil yang baik, buang yang keruh, bro. have some common sense la bro.

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  36. ning2 October 24th, 2008 at 9:55 pm

    Haha. anythin goes 4 me. lol. i’ll stil read nonsense anyway. ;p

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  37. p.crew October 25th, 2008 at 1:16 am

    long post~

    anyway, what actually happened behind the scene? Long post, judgmental topic (am I being judgmental now?).. hmmmm.. tell me tell me!

    *I am just being curious, which i always do.

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  38. amir October 25th, 2008 at 2:50 am

    errr errr.
    sapekah.

    amir’s last blog post..Raya Shot..

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  39. nik nasrul October 25th, 2008 at 4:57 am

    yeaa… :panic:
    im the one who like to make a criticize comment to others.. that mean..im a have a sense of caring…am i..?haha..
    hurm..anyway aisyah.. whateva people judge you..please keep blogging..haha..i like to read others blog..
    huh..im waiting for anisah’s new post blog.. :bored:

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  40. khalil October 25th, 2008 at 5:30 am

    well, judging doesn’t mean it only goes towards bad thoughts. what about,

    a cool guy
    a friendly person
    an open-minded bird

    yes. from my experience you need more time to judge people. i’m more close to the people that i judge negatively the first time i met them. so i restrain myself to judge people too early from now on.

    as for the content, i think, that bimbo posts is fun to be enjoyed and it is quick to view while your writings is good for people who loves thoughts and thinking.

    just keep it balance and your blog will be a fun thing. it already is by the way.

    khalil’s last blog post..After 24 days of raya

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  41. Aisyah October 26th, 2008 at 12:29 pm

    true also.
    but, how often people voice out the positive side of the people, without being asked? I try myself not to judge people. Even if I accidentally judged a person, I quickly trash it away, and try not to think of it.

    those gothic/punk/skinhead/emo wannabe and rempits are exception. I judge them, cause I hate them. hahah.

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  42. amir October 26th, 2008 at 6:53 pm

    dont hate them lor ^^..

    amir’s last blog post..Raya Shot..

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  43. Aisyah October 26th, 2008 at 7:45 pm

    you rempit ke? haha

  44. aien October 25th, 2008 at 1:54 pm

    People talk and judge..they just love to do it… btw.. lurve ur blog… :)
    aien’s last blog post..How to handle ‘My’ failing friendship

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  45. audi October 25th, 2008 at 2:19 pm

    but…aren’t you judging the people who judge you?

    and yes, I am judging you. it’s inevitable. we look, we read, we listen and we get the impression. Thus, we judge.

    audi’s last blog post..snake lives..and stop smoking

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  46. affuan October 25th, 2008 at 6:32 pm

    judging people by the their looks. that’s what makes our world is a beautiful place to live in. hehe.

    affuan’s last blog post..Arrogant!

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  47. Rara Dinzly Lee Codith October 25th, 2008 at 10:32 pm

    Ouh Aisyah, bimbo posts is the best okay! None beat it and it is in Ranking numb 1 for all-the-bloggers-must-do thingy. Thanksss.

    Rara Dinzly Lee Codith’s last blog post..HSM3

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  48. Aisyah October 25th, 2008 at 10:47 pm

    I know beb. haha

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  49. Mohd Ismail October 25th, 2008 at 10:42 pm

    setuju dengan sangat =)

    *sy mahu tgk lebih banyak kerja seni Aisyah Rozi*

    Mohd Ismail’s last blog post..Bayaran Terendah Advertlets: RM0.10 untuk 1,000 Pageviews

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  50. chot October 26th, 2008 at 1:11 am

    mm..entry dan blog yg menarik…salam ziarah aishah..

    chot’s last blog post..fhoto blog!

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  51. Aisyah October 26th, 2008 at 12:23 pm

    it’s aisYah okaaay!!! grrrr……. :mad:

    thanks anyway. :D

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  52. alone October 26th, 2008 at 2:48 am

    well.. u know urself :secret:

    but sometimes we have to let others judge us.

    it’s fair. :happy:
    alone’s last blog post..One Had Finished, More Yet To Come

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  53. Aisyah October 26th, 2008 at 12:26 pm

    you can let others judge you, if you want to. but even if you don’t let them, it’s still up to them. you can’t shut people’s mouth, can you?
    whatever it is, don’t let people take you down. that’s all.

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  54. alone October 26th, 2008 at 12:44 pm

    hm.. :shift:

    yup. well.. absolutely agree :happy:
    alone’s last blog post..One Had Finished, More Yet To Come

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  55. blowie October 26th, 2008 at 4:40 pm

    pedulikan saje ape yg org ckp,
    blog kamu,
    domain kamu,
    duit kamu,
    so suke hati kamu la :))

    blog ni pakai bomoh ke?? tak bole behenti membaca woo :love:
    blowie’s last blog post..Ceramah utk direnung bersama(DELETED)

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  56. amir October 26th, 2008 at 6:55 pm

    yea..agree with u.. :devil:
    amir’s last blog post..Raya Shot..

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  57. amir October 27th, 2008 at 12:07 am

    no im not.
    memBe2 dulu ada ar.
    i pon benci gak rempit.
    tp biar la lantak diaorg. ;)
    amir’s last blog post..Raya Shot..

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  58. blowie October 27th, 2008 at 12:33 pm

    “i like mat rempit :bigheart:
    kata maknyah kepada seorang jejaka motor…
    hahahahah :devil:
    blowie’s last blog post..Ceramah utk direnung bersama(DELETED)

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  59. sarancak! October 30th, 2008 at 9:25 am

    i still want to judge you and your friggin funny bimbo posts! haha :hehe:

    plus, i WONT read your blog anymore if there’s no sex,fuck,ass hole, boobies and penis words hahaha :cheer:

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  60. JK October 31st, 2008 at 12:19 am

    erk..nice whole new idea.. :D

    p.s: wanna link exchange?
    drop me comment:
    http://www.jomkongsi.info/blog

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  62. MyNaMeIsZeFF November 6th, 2008 at 6:25 pm

    did we deliberately judge them?
    No

    wasn’t it them who wanted to be a [insert category here] by proudly declaring [insert category here]?

    havent you seen many people proudly declare they are skinhead, an indie, a punk and proud of saying so?

    well from what you’ve written here, im glad you realise that those are negative values.

    from what i think, maybe u should be closer to god and realise who you really are, a humble tiny human in a small earth. If your purpose in this short life is to screw up by doing sins that Allah has prohibited us to do, why question hell and heaven. You’ve already chosen your place.

    note : you here doesnt mean only you, aisyah. its everyone, including me

    MyNaMeIsZeFF’s last blog post..Learn How To Make Your Own Headline Animator

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