I Hate My Bestfriend’s Boyfriend
yes, you read the title right. I hate her boyfriend. The friend that I’m talking about is, Afiqah1. She’s one of my best friends. They have been in relationship for over a year, but sometimes, they break, sometimes they are together. Now, they are together. I think.
The reason why I hate her boyfriend is that he is a fucking control freak. She has to let him know where is she going and she’s given a specific time to come home. She even has to ask for his permission to go out. Isn’t that outrageous? They are having a long distance relationship, for god’s sake. Last time I check, it’s her fucking life. Not his.
I would never want a control freak for a boyfriend. It’s a complete turn off for me. Just dump him. End of story. But not her. She hates him but she loves him. Damn it, just get rid of your oh-so-loving boyfriend. He’s not worth it. Of course, I’ve never told her that directly. I just suck it up and secretly hope that she’ll dump him, soon. 
Now, why am I so pissed off? It’s her boyfriend, not mine. Well, one is because she’s my friend and I love her. Another, it’s because this morning, at 4.33 am, he called me. I ignored his first call, but then he called me again. Since I was still in a limbo, I forgot to use the reject button. Anyway, when I answered the phone, he said, “Aisyah, sorry for disturbing, but did Afiqah say anything to you?”
This is one thing I can’t stand. Imagine this, you are sleeping peacefully until a phone call interrupts you, you look at the screen, it’s your friend. but, when you answer the call, the person on the other end asks you, “hey, do you know why [insert your friend’s name here] is not answering her phone?” I’m sure that you are going to get pissed off, too. 
Anyway, back to the conversation…
Him: Aisyah, sorry for disturbing, but did Afiqah say anything to you?
Me: No, she didn’t.
(by now I hope that he would hang up, but guess what? he didn’t)
Him: Well, I think she has a problem, but she’s not saying anything to me. She said, she texted you earlier, did she say something?
Me: No, she just said that she has a problem, but….
Me:….
(at this point I was too sleepy (or pissed) to speak up)
Him: what? what?
Me: babi kau pegi mati la! Who are you to call me at this hour? go fuck yourself off! Damn it!
Ok, I didn’t say that, but that’s what I was going to say to him. 
But hearing to his desperate voice, I didn’t have the hearts to do so.
Me: … she’s not saying anything, I can’t force her, can I?
Him: Aisyah, I’m so worried, I can’t go to sleep
Me: 
If you can’t sleep, don’t drag me in! I was sleeping for god’s sake.
Again, that was not what I said, but that’s what on my mind at that time.
Me: Can’t you be patient? She’s not in a life threatening situation! Calm down and wait for her to speak up. God!
Him: ok, ok… sorry again.
Me: fuck you! disturbing me and apologize for it. Better not do it at all!
and again, that’s not what I said to him, but what I wish I could say to him. 
Even if she did tell me something, I wouldn’t want to explain to him at that hour. What was he thinking?? 
I hate it when my sleep is interrupted by people I don’t even want to talk to.
There you go. It feels nice to let it out. I’m good. 
Now, before you say that I’m a bitch who doesn’t care about her friends, you are wrong. I do care about my friends but I don’t like to force people. I just do not want to make things complicated. Imagine if I’m calling her while she has a lot of stuffs to settle while I’m begging her to tell me what’s going on. Doesn’t that going to annoy her? To me, I should give her some time, and when she’s ready to tell me whats going on, then I’m ready to listen to her.
Life is simple. So, don’t make it complicated. :)
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next time..sound je dia..takyah pendam2 dah..:P
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heh. buang masa je sound orang camtu. takyah interfere, buat bodo je. kan senang. *shrugs*
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ni masalah cinta remaja tak berapa nak matang ni yang lemau ni. bercinta dengan chimps, baru boleh test2 kesabaran
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chimps? pe tu. chipmunk?
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chimps itu ada cipanzi, species beruk. Hoho
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nak bercinta dgn chimps buat apa. cinta kepada Allah itu cinta yang agung dan kekal selamanya.
amiin. Alhamdulillah.
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Nonono you’re not a bitch. Really. I’m so proud of you because you know what’s the best for your friend and you put yourself into her shoes and ponder about her boyfriend’s lousy attitude. That’s what defines BFFs
you’re so nice to put up a strong fight with that jerk. How can he be ruling over his girlfriend’s life with an iron fists? She’s not his, and even she is, not in this sense (as in total control!). He’s simply outrageous.
Some people develop this disorder because they feel insecure about their boy/girlfriends or the relationship. They then become suspicious of their every movement and word. How irritating. And if he’s feeling so insecure, he shouldn’t be in a relationship as well!
If I were you I would have shouted vulgarities over the phone to wake him up and make him realise that:
1. It’s wrong to call someone so early in the morning. If he can’t sleep, that’s his problem. Don’t make life miserable for everyone just because of him!
2. It’s rude to ask his girlfriend’s fried what she’ve told her, just because he wanted to know everything.
3. If he thinks his girlfriend has a problem, he should think over it and find if the fault lies with himself AND do not get anyone to explain the situation to him (and the victim is you - that’s unfair)
He deserves being berated and scolded! You’ve done a good job for your friend! Anyway, chill~ :D
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“How irritating. And if he’s feeling so insecure, he shouldn’t be in a relationship as well!”
precisely. thank you, Teddy.
“If I were you I would have shouted vulgarities over the phone to wake him up and make him realise that:”
exactly. but at that time, I was too sleepy to even speak up!
all I wanted to do was, go back to sleep.
“If he thinks his girlfriend has a problem, he should think over it and find if the fault lies with himself AND do not get anyone to explain the situation to him (and the victim is you - that’s unfair”
oh, I wish he could do that. but some people are just… selfish. they are too self-absorbed. that’s, in my opinion, shows the immaturity of the person.
thank you, Teddy. Thank you so much. You are very kind.
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Self-absorbed! That’s the word :) It’s just puzzling why people like to control others, as if they are part of their bodies. I mean, come on, even your parents don’t control you like that when you’re all grown up, so why exert such negative influence and pressure on your friends (especially girl/boyfriends?)…
Relationship is about taking, giving, sharing and caring. Obsessive control does no justice to any of those. And it’s an insult that he still call himself her boyfriend!
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I think the “sembilu” drama will end some time soon and Aisyah can sleep soundly in the future.
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I’m not too sure if you did right.. i think you just being too simple.. life’s simple but deep inside, it’s not. anyway if I were you, i would have done the same though..
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Quote: Idiots complicate, a genius simplifies
I’m not sure where I got this quote, though. But I agree with it. *thumbs up*
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that’s simple, and true..
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wow. an inspiring quote for me..
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Being a control freak is one thing, but calling somebody at 4 in the morning??? That’s just effin outrageous.
There’s this one time, my phone rang around midnight, to which I did not answer. And then, he called again around Subuh time. Again, I didn’t answer. Then afternoon the next day, I met up with him and asked what was up? Rupa-rupanya, dia nak mintak stock market tips. Tanya saham mana yg tgh panas. Babi…..
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what the hell? he called you just for that? gila apa? hahaha. apesal la emo sangat?
e = extremely
m = miserable
o = order?
haha. one thing about emo people is that, they are miserable, and they make other people miserable too. if they want to be miserable, don’t drag others in it. kentut ah… hahaha.
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nadlique: once, i received a phone call at 3 in the morning, asking me questions about hard disk failure.
sejak bila la plak aku jadi tech support. ugh..
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tech support? hahaha. itu lawak.
kesian aisyah. saya pun ada kawan yang ada bf macam ni. tapi, selalu err.. err.. (berdoa semoga mereka clash tak lama lagi
) baru jadi bf dah nak sekat macam-macam. same goes with the gf jugak. ada jugak yang perangai macam ni. but anyway, lain orang lain cara bercinta. tapi uhuk.. uhuk.. uhuk.. kesian aisyah. pi tido pi..
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hahaha. ayumi… aisyah dah tido sampai kul 12 dah tadi. haha. terlebih tido namanya tu. hahah
ye, bordoalah. hahaha
pelik la orang2 camni. adeih…
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org-org macam ni kita kena sula…
(ok. takde kaitan.
)
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very very interesting story sis…this kind of luv is crazy (dats wut i think). anything she wanna do, anywhere she wanna go, she has to get her bf permission! dem! wut the hell he think he is? he is not even your friend husband. juz a bf. for me this is not a matured relationship
my advice to your fren. go find somebody else. there is alot of good men outside. alots. there is no meaning for her to stick along wit dat kind of guy. wasting your time
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hmmm.. what ever dude… (referring to the bf)
Love is a battle field. Choose your ally wisely!
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i dunno y some people being like this,she hates him,but in the same time,she loves him..complicate her self..is dat true??
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i have a girlfriend who has (i reallllly hope i cud say had
) a boyfriend who wouldnt let her email/ talk/text with any other guy. he asked for her frenster n email pword n freaking check her inbox! psycho ok.
and he would even merajuk if my fren spend more time with her girlfriends.
whats that,man. please,lah~ n now im mad at her for staying together with him.
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gila lah kalau dapat partner yg macam tu.
need to report to him/her everthing that you did daily.
terlebih romantik daaa~
haha
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next time..ckp ja tidak tahu apa2..end of story..hee~
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That boyfriend’s a jerk =/ Poor friend you have there! And the guts he has, to call you at that hour, and demand information from you.
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itu namanye cibai ok ahaaa
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selambe je wan… hahaha
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i hate my bestfriend’s boyfriend too.
damn them all.
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yea.. i encounter that situation before juga. agak menyampah laa BF yg too-caring ni. hoh!
drag us with their relationship matters tetiba je kan?
ouh and another thing is, i hate it when someone BF mcm tak suka dia berkawan dgn kita. like… durghh~ who are you nak control people’s friend. kan? shit for a guy like dat!
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tu la psl. interfering with someone else’s relationship is the last thing I would want to do on earth. *sigh*
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haha gila gampang storyline dia
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gampang tu apa?
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hahaha..
aisyah.. go and google the word.
hehe..
jgn jadi mcm the ’skyjuice’ dah la..
hik hik..
anyway..
a guy like that?
just kick his ass la..
u may just let the phone on, put it on your table..
let him speaks to himself..
kalu nnt dia tanya or call balik and ask why you x jwb call dia..
say that u didn’t realise the call..
too sleepy la kan..
hish..
nyusah org je..
aduhai..
buat malu laki je guy tu.
desperate habis!
x reti sabar2..
[0.o]!
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i did. but nothing to be found. so, what’s gampang?
heh. whatever la, he’s not worth it. cacat ah dia tu. heh
Gampang ni ada banyak maksud sebenarnya. yg saffa tahu.. gampang=senang/anak haram.. x sure gak..
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gampang dalam BM tu, anak haram.. tapi dalam bahasa indon pulak, ‘bagus’ or something with good meaning..
two different world
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Eh?
As long as I know, gampang in Indonesian tu maksudnya “senang” atau “mudah”.
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Oh man, I’m soo sorry to hear that! I hated a guy that a friend of mine’s dated too… But not to this extreme! Wow. Good luck to her with this whole thing… And yeah, I wouldn’t want anyone to control my life like that too. Good luck to her… I actually feel bad for her reading your blog… Hehe…
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Haha.. pelik arr u ni aisyah.. (forgot to use the reject button).. but as u said..u still in a limbo. I’m still going to reject the phone call after all.. even though at first I push the ‘accept’ button.
If he call me for the third time, then I will speak to him and guess what? I will be cracked!
. “Can u call me tomorrow? I’m sleepy and I cant think properly. Sorry!” Thats what I’m going to tell him.
If he doesnt understand what I said.. I’m going to turn into hulk!
Urgh.. I cant stand if someone interrupt my sleep time! seriously..
Yup, I’m totally agree with u!!
“To me, I should give her some time, and when she’s ready to tell me whats going on, then I’m ready to listen to her”
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i wish i could marah him but… then i would get a lot more pissed off than I already was. plus, mls nak ckp masa tu. sleepy oh… hahah.
i think i already told him to call me later, but he’s too stupid la. haaa. hambik kau. i really hope that he’s reading this entry. and fuck himself off. hahaha.
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dont too “condemn” him, nanti ur Bf pula like that. ahaks
[no offense]
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*sigh* i tend to condemn people I hate. ugh.. whatever. berdoalah supaya dia sedar sikit diri tu.
heh. karma eh?
Huhu..
yeah2.. I hope he will read this entry and see how many people are pissed off with his action!
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pround to you…such a nice friend..one day i hope your friend will thank you…and dump her
‘mengong’ boyfriend… :p
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thank you… yeah, I hope so too.
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heh…welcome…u x yah pening2 pikir..u brain need space for sumthings else too..ehhe..
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ahahha!xleh blah doh bf AFIQAH tu!mn die dpt num u?
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dia dah ada my num lama dah kot. i have his too. heh.
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story line u suspen. mendebarkan..
i really like this part “Again, that was not what I said, but that’s what on my mind at that time.”
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peh…aisya kasih lecture free pada aku… amin… akhirnya terbuka juga jiwa..
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hehe… selalu gi ceramah. hahaha. hey, gi tido la.
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tak mo… nak semakkan blog u dengan komen2 membina i. haha
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ammvoiii, jeles jeles one gittewww..
btw, u hv nice blog here.. keep it up sis! me tumfang lalu jak..
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Wow…That’s just retarded.
I was in a controlling relationship once, for 2 long years. It was the worst thing ever!!!! He acted exactly how your friend’s boyfriend acts. It was so ridiculous! He led me to believe that he acted that way because he loved me so much and didn’t want to lose me. I dealt with it for a while but it got to a point were I just couldn’t take it anymore.
My current relationship is so much better. There’s nothing better than telling your boyfriend that you’re going out with he girls and for him to say “Have fun baby!” instead of getting mad at you ya know?
You have a lot of patience…I seriously would have told him off.
Beautiful site by the way
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i hate my girlfriend’s boyfriend.. ha ha ha
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Nice post title. It’s very catchy.
Urgh. That sucks! Seriously. I mean, hello? He definitely does not have the rights to control her life. Probably your friend loves him so much that it’s hard for her to let him go despite of him being a control freak. *shrugs*
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nanti kacau la plak laki tu mlm2..
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Its really annoying when someone disturbs your sleep. Especially if that ’someone’ is the person you hate.
Okay okay. Your bestfriend’s boyfriend is really like my boyfriend. And uhm, the reason why I don’t dump him yet is because I’m not yet ready. Perhaps, that’s also her reason?
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Cinta .. Harap2 membawa ke jinjang pelamin dan bersama hingga akhir hayat.. tapi setakat cinta dah camtu. camne dah kawin??
Lu pk lah sendiri
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siapa sebut pasal kawin?
bg saya, umur mcam saya ni terlalu awal nak fikir pasal kawin.
kurangkan tengok raja lawak eh? hehehe
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Bukan citer pasal kawin.. Tapi citer pasal pakwe dan makwe yang melampau..
Masa cinta semua sayang.. Buang angin pun wangi bila dah kawin.. Ntahlah …
‘ Apsal nak kurang tgk Raja Lawak?? Nabil best aper….. Orait!! ‘
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aáh. Nabil je la best kot. haha.
This post reminds me of my sister’s ex-boyfriend. He was a complete control freak. Thank goodness it’s over. He stayed on the phone with her 24/7 to ensure she’s at work or at home and besides that she’s not allowed to even talk to her co-workers. How outrageous is that? But she hated him and loved him at the same time.
Calling you 4AM in the morning? Is he insane? When it’s my bedtime my phone is usually on silent. I need my sleep without interruptions.
Hopefully your friend will realize what a control freak he is. I hate to see people in such situations and I hate being control. Everyone is entitled to their freedom to do whatever they wish.
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Her boyfriend’s TOTALLY overreacting lol!!!!
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there is a verb that is called ‘ignore’ - havent tried that yet ?
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Aisyah , A notice to your head ,
that time , he has a problem .
maybe in the future , you will have the same problem and the only person left is him for you to call . Don’t regret it when he will say exactly what you have think to say up there.
This world is balance , you help others and others will help you .
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it’s not his problem. HE is the problem.
I do believe in that, too. When you help others, others will help you. it’s the nature.
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Jadi la orang yang tegas! Kalu tak suka cakap tak suka, dan sebab apa tak suka terus kat dia! Tak guna cakap belakang. Itu cuma akan menambahkan rasa benci yang tidak berpenghujung!
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heh. dah cakap. sekali cukup. nak dengar ke taknak, sudah. malas nak interfere hal orang.
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sabar je lah.
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boyf siapa you? yang penting bukan i sebab i takde boyf. haha
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no… not u lah babe. hahah.
AZIMA SINGLE, SILA STALK DIA, TERIMA KASIH.
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ye eh?? yeay! ade line!
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sama-sama. tapi saya amat garang. haha
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salam….
u hate it bcoz u care about ur bestfriend.that what friend for.care and help each other no matter what happened.
u are not a bitch.dont ever think like that again
based on my experience my bestfriend just like ur friend.i mean her boyfriend.i hate her boyfriend too.she always tell to me about her BF.but i so lucky bcoz she understand what im try to say.i mean, once i tell to her how much i hate her BF.she admit what i say.now they still together and become more lovely right now.as a her bestfriend i always want her life happy and peacefully.hope she will happy with her BF and herlife.
about her Bf calling u in 4am???? my advice off ur phone during ur bedtime.
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That is truly wrong. I’ve never understood why girls like those type of boys. But I guess when you’re in love you see what you wanna see and ignore the rest.
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hello aisya.
ths is my 1st time being here ;DD
specifically in yr nice fuckin’ blog.
gosh. im luvin it~
and yr content is intertaining, too ;))
ill link yr url in mine =)
btw, abt ths one sily pyscho-jerk, he dnt deserve her at all, nvr in his life! (unless in his stupid-freakin nitemare~)
i cnt see any beautiful reason on why she shud continue ths lovefool except 4 tellin u guys tht, luv is blind and it sumtimes can turn out to b a total bullshit thingy.
well, thts y it is called as love. not revenge or motherfu**er. haha.
ouh yea, ure totally not a biatch. its just a very right thngs to do.
hey peeps, everyone needs their own space.
duhhh.
luvey~ ;D
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aww…really? thank you so much. you are very kind. I’m glad thatyou like my posts. hehe.
I’m not sure if the love itself is blind. i believe, love makes us go blind. or is it the same? no?
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My last experience, sbb tak boleh tahan sgt aku luahkan gak betapa aku tak suke pakwe bestfriend aku..korang tahu apa kesannya..? Aku dah takde kawan baik dah..adei..jadi jujurpun susah gak
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exactly.
sorry for what has happened. must be horrible for you.
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Yup, hope oneday she will realized all points between friendship and love. Currently im labeling her as totally 100% idiot lover.
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aisya syg.
i dh add yr link ;DD
do add mine babe.
luvey~~~
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done! thanks.
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This is called domestic violence, I wrote something related to it…
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