Am I… spoiled?
Research has shown that the eldest and the youngest kids are spoiled the most compared to the middle ones. And, I’m the eldest.
I’ve never considered myself as a spoiled brat. I’ve never even realised that my parents are caring a bit too much about me, if that’s true. Maybe, I don’t feel it, because my both of my parents are very fair to all of us [siblings].
(you may skip to continue reading. the following paragraph is not really important. heh)
My mum rarely tells us to do the chores, because we have a maid to do that. When I’m studying, she would buy some biscuits for me to snack on. She buys a whole lot of low fat milk and stuff it all in the refrigerator so that we can get enough calcium for our growth, she puts us on vitamins and spirulina ever since we were kids. When I get a really bad headache, or a stomach ache at the middle of the night, and couldn’t sleep, I would cry and crawl to my parent’s bedroom, and, eventhough I’m already 17, my mum would get up, find me the meds and gives me good massage, until I fall asleep. When I’m not feeling well, she never force me to go to school. She never did, eventhough I’m well. When I’m lazy to go to school, she never got mad at me. She is not happy with it, of course.
My parents get devastated when I don’t eat. They are very worried of me. Once, I went to my friend’s place and I didn’t realise that my mobile phone was out of battery. They tried to reach me for a lot of times, from 8.30pm and only until around 11.30pm, my dad turned up at my friend’s place (he knew cause he saw my car parked there). I wondered why didn’t they call me so I decided to push it. They almost lodged a police report, they thought that I might be stranded somewhere or had an accident! I was really shocked that they actually cared about me. I know, I was pretty stupid.
I love my parents. They are, indeed, wonderful parents. And I’m lucky to have them.
My sister (16, going 17) once expressed her envy. She said that I always get what I want (car, laptop, etc) and that it doesn’t seem fair to her. On the other hand, I always think that my she’s my parents’ favourite daughter, between the both of us. She’s currently in a boarding school (MRSM Pengkalan Chepa, Kelantan). Ever since she went to boarding school, I think that she has become more favourable by my parents.
It’s not that I’m not qualified to go to boarding school, I scored straight As and I was active back in school, especially in sports. I was 15 and I was too immature to make my decision to go to the boarding school, for the love of luxurious (in a modest way) life I get at home. Furthermore, my parents discouraged me to go to boarding school. But when my sister’s time came, she insisted to go to boarding school, and my parents finally agreed.
Yesterday, Syad called me and we talked for quite a while on the phone. She’s currently studying in Matriculation college. Anyways, I listened to her experience of living far away from home and being independent. She comes from a wealthy family, and she’s also my neighbour, living just a couple of doors away from my place. Even so, she’s a very down to earth person. Anyways, she then asked,
Syad: Aisyah, I’m wondering, can you really survive, living here?
I paused for a few seconds,
Me: well, I don’t know, what is it like living there?
Syad: Well, there’s no shopping malls here, definitely. and you have to take the busses to get anywhere, which is.. nowhere. not to mention, the food. You kan very picky.
Me: oh? hm.. 
Syad: the busses here are really, really amazing. It’s like it’s going to fall apart anytime. hahaha 
Me: seriously? HAHAHA.
Syad: Aisyah, you have never felt what’s it’s like to live a tough life.
Me: yeah… in a way, that’s pretty sad, not being able to experience those sweet hard times, huh?
Syad: yeah…
I’m pathetic. All I know is to ask my parents for money and spend it for my shopping needs. I admit, I’m a very good girl, and not somekind of spoiled brat. I may just be a LITTLE bit spoiled. Although, I hate to ask for money to anyone, I’m a very materialistic person.
It’s not that I regret enrolling into The One Academy college, because everything has been wonderful. It’s just that I regret for not having experiences living away from home. Maybe when I’ve got myself a well-paid job, I should move out to a condominium and live on my own, alone, BEFORE I get married.
And the condominium should be of my parents’ money, of course.
Even so, I’m pretty sure that parents will go against it. So, the only time I’m going to live ‘on my own’ is when I get married. Therefore, I’m dead sure that I’ll get a culture shock, during the first few months of my marriage, because I’ll have to do everything on my own, and stuffs. OR, I might end up slaving my husband. hmm… I likeee! mwahaha! 
but that’s okay. If I lose my energy doing chores, I might not have the energy for..,. uh… you know. 
So, that’s a good, valid reason. HAHAHA. I’m joking, of course.
Being a materialistic that I am, I’m NOT a girlfriend material, so guys, if any of you who has thought of me as a potential girlfriend, forget it. I’m happy with my life as a single. I can decide on going out with my girlfriends without having to consider whether to go out with my BF or my girlfriends, I can date anyone that I want, and I can even go lesbian without having anyone to dissapoint or complain. But I’ll skip the latter, though. hehe.
Like Ayumi, I can also go to college without my handphone and when I get home, I have not a single missed call, or a message.
I know, it’s pathetic. I don’t have anyone to call if my car breaks down in the middle of nowhere. 
The conclusion is? I should appreciate what I have. If you read until this very last line, congratulations. sekian, terima kasih.
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i’m the eldest and yes .. saya sangat - sangat dimanjai !!!! (on certain things la if want to compare wth my siblings like asking for a motorcycle .. a laptop .. :p )
the rest .. i have to be “abang contoh” utk adik- adiku .. kerana menjadi along kepada adik-adikku .(bkn along ceti) is to set a good example for them
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yup. the eldest n the youngest selalu the manja one!. i’m the middle
. there r 3 of us, n im the only girl.
i always get jealous with them coz they slalu dpt what they want. i got mine too, but not as much as diaorg dpt la. haha.
but, not a big deal anyway, i dpt gune jugak whatever yg diaorg dpt. hehe. so, sharing really wipe off all the envies. hehe.
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im the middle one.
but, i don’t think my parents spoiled my eldest bro.. he always behind us [siblings].. buy anything we wanted and always treat us.. what eva he get, for sure, all of us gonna get it too.. just depend to time and age.. school? all of us went to boarding/half-boarding school.. so, none of us felt dissapointed with this matter.. and im the only one who manage to go to boarding school since 13.. and my youngest bro.. doesnt really care about being the last.. he always put himself the same level as other.. even to his elder bro who used to be the last ( he was born 4 years after the 2nd last)..
aisyah, not offence.. maybe, sometimes you can have a talk with your siblings.. what do they want.. and what can you contribute to them, not necessary money.. maybe some things, which shows that, you also care for them, as for me, when my brother did that, we do not felt any jelous with him.. as, he is the eldest, and he doesn’t selfish to himself..
about your parent.. what they did, is natural.. even im 20, if im out or late, they surely gonna call me.. and as a son to them, i do report where i went and when im gonna be home.. at least.. hehehe.. about what your mom did to you when you were sick.. its the same thing that what my parents did.. there was a night, i got gastrick.. both of them care for me, till i went back to sleep.. which is about 3-4am in the morning.. I LOVE MY PARENTS!!
p/s: aisyah, maybe you should try the HARDLIFE it self.. it is a very usefull knowledge.. like what you said, whats gonna happened to you when you get married? hik hik.. i would like to wait fo that moment and see what is your actions.. hahahaha
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“about your parent.. what they did, is natural.. even im 20, if im out or late, they surely gonna call me”
seriously? I thought you were a guy? hahah. maybe it’s because you don’t have a house key so they didn’t want to stay up late or let you wake them up in the middle of their sleep. HAHAHA.
hardlife? I know. but I think I’m gonna pass.
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im a guy la aisyah.. my name already proves that.. it just that, even im a guy, there surely worried if im not home.. this apply to all of my siblings including my eldest bro, 27 years old.
they’re just worried if you’re not around. that is what parents do.
huhuhu..
“PARENTS LOVE US”
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euu.. entry paling panjang pernah saffa baca!
haha.. I agree..
usually, the eldest/youngest will get ‘more’ attention from their parent..
my brain is not working properly, i will come back n comment balik.. :)) nak jadi top commenter nih
sorry,
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well… congratulations? haha :p
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A spoiled child is one who’s demanding, self-centered, and unreasonable.
The conclusion is you are not spoiled.
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haha. I don’t tell everything here, you know. the fact is, I am. I’m very, very self-centered, and can be quite demanding and I get cranky if I dont get what I want. hahah. but, unreasonable. nah, I’m too mature to be unreasonable.
another thing, I always fail at holding responsibilities. most of the times, I ended up frustrating ppl around me just because I can’t do my responsibilities. ah, whatever. (see, that’s self-centered. no?)
salam…
im the eldest and the only daughter in my family.i have to be a sister and brother to my little brother.3 siblings and the eldest and the only daughter.
yes, i always got what i want but sometimes be the eldest very tough and tough.i have to be example to my 2 little brother.
Sometimes i always think that my litthe brother > acap just like what abdusfauzi said NS < had teached me everthing.Masa tu mmg rindu habis kat family especially adik2 ku yg selalu aku sakat and gado walaupun im happy got the NS.
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salam…
Actually have some mistake in my comment.The computer have some problems during i submit my comment at your blog.
So,sorry to abdusfauzi about this line > Sometimes i always think that my litthe brother > acap just like what abdusfauzi said NS < had teached me everthing<. It not about NS but i agree what abdusfauzi say about his parents and ur parents.100% totally agree because my parents just like ur parents and most of the parents in the world. very caring and love their child even he/she was 20 years old.
I got NS and 3 months stay in the camp had teached me verything.That time i very miss my family especially Acap and airul.rindu cz tidak dpt sakat and gado with them even I was happy when i knew i got NS.
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whoa… yeah, even if I don’t go to boarding school, I should at least experience that 3 months right?
well, NS is not my thing. Although, all my friends said it was a really fun there. hahah. oh well.
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anyway girl, you kena bawak henphone la. nanti your car broke down kat mana-mana karang your parents risau pulak. don’t be like me. i duduk sendiri. takpe.
(takpe la sgt huhu)
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haha. takpe. joget2 sket sebelah keta mesti ada org berhenti.
silap2 kena culik
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kalau i, confirm i tak berenti. orang gila mana la joget-joget tepi jalan ni.. hahahahahaha….
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oh. mmg confirm la akan diculik. hahaha. rupa2nya hantar hosp bahagia.
Well, I’m the eldest, and my sister’s the youngest, and she gets A LOT more than me. I’m serious.
As for what your parents does, about how you don’t have to do chores, get you food, etc, etc, reading ALL of that reminds me how I was talking to someone about this, and how it really fits the description of my sister!! Yeah, and when I say all of that to my sister, she thinks I’m the spoiled one, but truly, I don’t get as much as she does.
Yeah, I do know what you mean about living on your own. I feel like that may be the case for me, although I DO do my own laundry, etc, so I’m independent enough, but I think it’d still be a culture shock for me too.
Hehe about how you love being single. It’s alright, but sometimes I’d want to have that special someone there with me. Hehe…
Oh, and as for your handphone. Hmm… I wonder if that’d be the case with me. I currently don’t have a phone, so I don’t give out my number much at all.
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Urm, I think the part of having to think about allocating time for your boyfriend is sweet of you. However, there are some of us who pretty much let our girlfriends/boyfriends roam free.
Hey, if you love the person then you’ve already gave trust to the person.
Only setback, she/he might think you’re weird coz you’re not jealous at times. ROFL!
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heheh. it’s not that having a control freak, but I can’t decide which one to spend my time with. I mean, whatever your decision, you know you’r going to have a wonderful time.
“Only setback, she/he might think you’re weird coz you’re not jealous at times. ROFL!”
who’s the he/she here? I’m a bit confused.
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im the middle one and Im not a spoiled brat.
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You’re not a spoiled brat… because u still have your own principles and opinion. But sometimes, girls need to be spoiled a bit, so that they won’t go to far… from being a girl. You know what I mean.
About that relationship matter… hmm… better ask the elders. They knew more than you do. I’ve experienced hard relationships and I know what it feels like to be “no-more-damn-fucking-stupid-relationship-anymore.”
We (u n me lar) do have a similarity. My sister thinks I’m the most spoiled in the family. Yep, I got what I want… bicycle, laptop, bla bla bla… But for me, I think that she’s the most spoiled person in the family.
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i’m the eldest. what i gonna say being the eldest is not as easy as u think. there’s tons of pressure on your shoulder. u’ve to be successful in your study, career bla bla bla. Be a good role model… Tension!
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when did I say it’s easy? I’m a role-model for my siblings. Especially my sister. She copied my fashion style. she tries to be like me in some ways (like, being loud and all) and she comes to me to seek advices, and so do I.
yeah, I know what you mean about the pressure in studying. but think of this way, you set the pressure for your siblings. THEY, on the other hand have the pressure to beat you. It’s normal. *shrugs*
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i’m the eldest too. and just like u,i’ve to be the role model. a must!
my mum says when i get job,i must give her at least rm500++ per month. and give pocket money to my other 3 siblings too. aiyyoooo kena cari kerja yang gaji rm3000++ la kalu cam ni
duit minyak+makan+bla3..xcukup2.
just as u aisyah,my sister also copied me. i love black then she start to like it too. padahal dia minat gila dgn pink dlu. skrg sy plak berjangkit pink kaler dia tu
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but unfortunately, one of my siblings doesn’t care about it. no matter how much i give him lectures, he seems like ‘ah…pedulik ape aku. aku nak main. malas blaja’
geez… so worry about his future.
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really? in my case, it’s my younger sis who always gives me her advices. LOL
Aisyah, care to edit this post? glaring la your mistakes. (sorry fussy)
Well, bile jadi parents nanti, you know your love takkan berbelah bahagi. Although one may feel favorable, the other will feel privileged.
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hahah. u mmg fussy pun.
i was blogging in the middle of the night. I was so sleepy. hahah. I just edited some. maybe I should re-read it atleast 3 times more and see if I could detect some (which is what I’m worst at).
civic. crv.
HAHAHAHA! takleh lupa oke!
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Umm.. Well, I like your writing flare. So when your writing (grammar) changed so much, I have to be fussy. Kalau tak bosan and kurang materials to read.
CRV. CIVIC. You can make yourself look silly as much as you want. Deep down, I know you’re a bright girl. HahahaahahahhHAHAHAHAHAA
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hahahaha. I find myself laughing alone just thinking about it.
Let it be our little secret.
You are not spoiled girl, but lucky. Not everyone in the world can have proper foods, transport, computers, money etc.
Some parents can’t even afford sending their children to school (even in Malaysia). So make sure you thank Allah all the time and learn to put everything that you have for a good cause.
Just my 2 cents.
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huhu. another good reason for being single. haha.
sometimes, it is kinda good too. So, cut the hp thingy, and go study. haha
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haha. aisyah dengar ni. you can save cost sebab tak pakai henphone. i takpe. i dah keje. even tak guna, i bayar sendiri. haha.. ohh.. i mean, my firm tolong bayarkan.
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haha. top up, my mum bagi.
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Sian boss. Kalau AyUmi kaki gayut, ranap la petty cash.
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luckily, i bukan kaki gayut. usually people yang call me. so, selamat petty cash my boss. hahaha…
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hye…
i dont think ur spoiled la…
i’ve met far more worst than u…
>>my lil brother…LOL
he can get very cranky when he didnt get what he want and when i said he is spoiled, he is…
my parents will grant his wishes and i’m so jealous…
but, wtf…
btw, he is the youngest, so, it’s soo true that youngest sibling is more to be spoiled…
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uh-huh! thinking back.. I get cranky if I don’t get what I want too! Yesterday, my dad had to switch back the channel because I sort of mengamuk when he switched the channel because i was watching it, and he told me to do my assignments. HAHA!
well, that’s just one case. there are a hell lot more.
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haha :)) …
go figure!
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I HAVE READ IT UNTIL THE VERY LAST LINE!!! *looks proud* But hell, it was easy to, because your blog was so entertaining… And because I was thinking about how much it paralleled my own life x_x
I don’t have to explain my life story here; it’s almost the same as YOUR life; at least, the one you described up there. I’m not THAT spoilt, but I’m certainly spoilt ENOUGH… in the same way as you are. I don’t have a weekly allowance, but I get money whenever I ask for it and ah, I’ll not bother you with talking about how I’m spoilt WHEN THE METHODS ARE NEARLY THE SAME AS YOURS.
I don’t think I could live alone properly. I would first stupidly spend all my money, and then live in poverty, and hereth ends the story.
Aiyah noooo!
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“I don’t think I could live alone properly. I would first stupidly spend all my money, and then live in poverty, and hereth ends the story.”
OMG. Exactly! once, my parents were out of the country for a month and they left 1.5k to each of us [my sis and I] and I ended up spending every last cent 2/3 days BEFORE they came back. =/
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pergh.. i wish i am one of your siblings.. then i can use it to topup for my laptop.. hahahaha
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I meant “here endeth the story”. AHH, I need to get my old English right!! xD
WHOA, really? Well, y’know, a shopping spree once in a while never hurts, but just be careful to NOT spend all your life savings when you go out to live on your own, y’know?
I hope you liked the things you bought =D
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You’re not spoiled. I guess I’m the same as you. I don’t know what it’s like to live out there in the real world like other kids. I think my parents know that I can’t cope out there in the real world, hence they treat me well. =)
When I was five I had the option of moving to London with one of my aunts to enroll in a Modeling School. It turns out my parents didn’t agree with that decision since my Mom finds it hard to part with me. As big as I am eighteen years old when I’m home alone I miss my parents, I always call to check up on them when they’re out.
Everyone considers me lucky because they notice I get everything I want in life. =/ Thinking about it I don’t think I can survive in the real world and do chores. I’ll definitely need a maid or I’ll have my Mom over to do it.
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oh aisyah..i agree with noktah hitam
byk mistakes..sowy (u noe me)
anyway..no ur definitely NOT spoiled
u’ve just been more privileged than others.
u noe, evrytime i saket prut my parents juz say “makan la ubat” or “sape suro mkn sikit sgt?”
im the eldest n hanif is the youngest, so we’re both spoiled! haha
but i hav a way with words with my dad
but my mum has a soft spot for my bro..
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uh-huh. i noe u. takpe. hehe. yeah, i baca balik, there were lotsa mistakes. buat malu je. hahah. tula, post panjang2, ms tgh ngantuk lagi. hahah. i dah edit sket. kalau u bc balik, and jump lagi mistakes, u can just point it out, I don’t mind.
hahaha. u both are spoiled. betul gak. LOL.
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Aisyah,
its been awhile since I visited ur blog. I have so many to catch up haih. Anyway I safely here in Malaysia now, and sorry I didn’t bring the MacBook with me haha..
one thing, whats your euro fav. team? Come on I know u’ll have one.
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hehe.. aisyah, tetiba i think that… we have the same (in the sense of being the not-so-spoil kid) situation there.
ihik… im the eldest daughter (although ada abang). get what i want from my dad (car, laptop, money…etc), being cared like SO much like u said, bateri abes, depa carik merata. when i go abroad, they called me like every day. (nasib baik not every minute)
and..yerp, u shud at least rasa bersyukur with it. I dont find myself as WAJIB to get a BF since I still get enough love
from my parents…and family :)
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Pada saya.. samada sulung , tengah, bongsu semuanya ada kelebihan masing2..
tiada yang spoil…
Masing2 ada tanggungjawab ..
Bagi yang sulung sudah pasti lebih berat kerana perlu menjadi contoh kepada adik2..
p/s :- Sorry I’m not good in English…
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im the eldest and im spoiled. In another terms. ok good.
you got really nice css design here. dang~!
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hell yeah!!
i’m the eldest. And i have to admit that i’m a spolied brat. Obviouslyyyy.
I only have 2 siblings which, “x best lah adik bradik sikit ni. haha.”
Well, we both are spoiled brat.
Never been away from home, tell u what, i nvr get the chance to go anywhere by taxi.
grr. sounds more pathetic than yours rite? haha.
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Seriously Aisyah, you don’t sound like a spoiled brat to me :) I see people who have really bad anger management, extremely insatiable demand for luxuries in life, no patience, no idea of respect as spoiled brats. You didn’t even fulfil one of the conditions to a spoiled brat.
Everyone has wants and needs. They are differentiated from each other by their urgentness and importance. A need will be like buying rice for the household for the next week, while a want will be purchasing two Lamborghinis when you already have a car at home. We all have wants, we dream about owning things we currently do not have. It’s perfectly normal to have unlimited wants - just like you and me, but you acknowledge that want, and tell yourself that it’s not urgent nor important for the moment being. This differentiates a wise, and an impulsive buyer. Your not impulsive at all, because since I started reading your post, you’ve put a lot of consideration into an expensive purchase
I’m the eldest children in my family (I have a brother), and I really feel that there is favouritism at home - towards me, that is. My parents will grant my wishes easier than my brother’s, and sometimes we get different treatment or punishments from our wrongdoings as well. Humans are not born to be completely neutral - there will definitely be biasness at home. In the end sometimes I’ll have to talk to my parents when my brother landed himself in deep trouble, persuading them to give him equal treatment: ‘imagine if I did it, will you beat me up too?’ :D
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yg plg tua lg dimanjakan?
tak pernah brlaku dlm fmly aku..
aku selaku anak no2 pun sering mnjadi org gaji..
huu..sdey2..
>silent readers finally expose himself<
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Is it just me or it’s really you’ve been squeezing in sex talk here and there lately?:D
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waaa!ade nme i kat ats!ahha..ceh,nk gak ckp aku kaye,kn!
(jakun gle!)
nwys,i rse u xla manje..but u are vry lucky..very!so u shud b thnkful 4 it;)
u are,rite?;)
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I love you.
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“Research has shown that the eldest and the youngest kids are spoiled the most compared to the middle ones.”
I don’t quite agree with the statement above because I’m the middle one and I’m spoiled.
Okay, maybe not that spoiled. But compared to my sibs, I’m the most “manja” in my family. Sometimes I do feel guilty for being able to get everything that I want. And my lil sis sometimes get jealous of me. My elder sis thinks that I deserve everything that was given to me. It’s complicated.
Oh yes, I had been in matrix for a month and the place was terrible. I mean, the hostel and everything were great. Tapi dia macam pendalaman. Surrounded by oil palm trees. Sangat tak best & membosankan. Luckily, i was there only for a month. Muahaha..
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I personally don’t think that you’re spoiled. I believe you’ve acquired the skill of being diplomatic with your parents, knowing how to tug on their heartstrings. Which is kinda cool. =P I have yet to perfect mine! =P
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er… shut up you. you got (and are getting) lotsa stuffs already. so shut up! hahaha
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