I’ve read a lot of articles saying that having kids will put life into perspective. But I haven’t read on HOW can a kid do that to you.
Well, here is how my daughter, Sara, put my life on perspective.
1. She gives my life a new meaning
I now almost cannot imagine what life was before I had her. Sure, I remember my husband and I went out on dates and all but compared to now, our dates must have been so bland.
When I thought of my life as a single, I felt like back then, my life was meaningless. It was all about studying, having fun and enjoying ‘life’.
What “life”? Lol
2. I now truly know what love means
Yes, I love my husband but I thought that was just it. My family, my husband and my close friends are the people I will only able to love.
Once I had Sara, now I REALLY know what love is. How big my heart actually is.
3. Busy busy busy
Once I have a child, I now absolutely know the what busy actually means. And I would cringe when singles complain “I have no time.”
Well, be a mom and you will know what “no time” is! At the very least, after a very very long and busy day, they can still take a long shower and a cup of tea before bed. Perhaps some house chores to attend.
Yet, a mom who had an equally tiring and busy day, will still have house chores to do, ON TOP OF taking care of her child. Feed them, change them, put them to bed, wake up in the middle of the night and still have to wake up early in the morning the next day. Earlier, let me clarify, to prepare her kids before going to work.
Am I doomed? No. The key is organization and focus. Sure, I might not get everything done in a day, but one thing is better than nothing. There are supermoms out there who are raising 5-8kids (or more), and I have highest respect for them. How people able to deal with more than one kid is a mystery to me.
4. Sense of responsibility.
Of course, that seems very obvious. Babies are born absolutely helpless and the fate of a baby is completely at the mercy of his caretaker.
But what I mean is, it makes me more responsible in all aspects. I feel like I want to do good in my career, or if I were to further study, I want to work really hard at it. You know, just an overall sense of responsibility.
Why? Because everyday is a reality. Reality. Reality. Reality. There’s no lazy-series-marathon-in-bed-all-day. Ever. You have a kid to take care of and you have to get your ass off your bed, take a shower and make a breakfast.
5. Everyday is a gift.
This is probably one of the biggest change of perspective. Ever since she was born, I felt like every waking day is a gift and a blessing.
Just looking at her gives me a sense of gratitude to god. Alhamdulillah. She makes me appreciate life. How everyday matters. How lucky I am to have her. I know that she is not mine forever, and Allah is only lending her to me. She will only be a child for this short while and I want to treasure every moment with her.